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Publications on Relationships and Marriage

41 publications were found.

  • Life Hacks for Wanna-be-Well-Adjusted 20-Somethings (C 1115)

    Graduating from college is a time of difficult transition for many young adults. This circular is a research-based guide giving practical tips to assist recent college graduates in transitioning to their new role as adults in the workplace and beyond. Published on May 31, 2017.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Are We Compatible? (C 1052-09)

    While contemplating if a dating partner might turn into a marriage partner, deciding how compatible you are as a couple is an important factor. In this Marriage Matters publication, we describe why compatibility is important and how you can decide how compatible you and your partner actually are based on five areas of importance. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Before You Say “I Do” (C 1052-10)

    Taking the time to think about the marriage can be difficult while planning a wedding, but taking the time to think about the decision to marry can help you avoid future problems. In this Marriage Matters publication, we offer questions you should ask yourself and describe with your partner before you say "I do." Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Before You Say “I Do” Again (C 1052-30)

    Remarried couples are different from first-marriage couples in that they bring different experiences to the marriage. These experiences can lead to unique difficulties. In this Marriage Matters publication, we describe the characteristics of a successful remarriage and encourage communication and commitment. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Bids for Connection: Creating Positive Interactions in Your Marriage (C 1052-26)

    Positive interactions are important to building a strong marriage. When one partner attempts to make a positive connection, how the other partner responds impacts whether the connection is positive or negative. In this Marriage Matters publication, we describe what it means to "bid for connection" and what each partner can do to create more positive connections. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Caregiving Spouses (C 1052-36)

    As couples reach the later years of marriage, one partner may become ill and the other take on the caregiver role. In this Marriage Matters publication, we describe ways for the caregiver to support their partner's self-esteem and describe options of support for the caregiving partner. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Commitment to Look for the Positive (C 1052-15)

    Committing to look for the positive in the relationship can have a strong impact on the strength of a couple's marriage and their levels of satisfaction. In this Marriage Matters publication, we encourage couples to commit to having a positive point of view, to look for and built upon the positive things in their lives, share in and talk about positive events, and to be positive and encouraging toward their partner. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Dealing Positively with Your Former Spouse (C 1052-31)

    After divorce, many parents have difficulty establishing the type of relationship they will have in order to co-parent their child or children. In this Marriage Matters publication, we describe the different types of co-parent relationships that can be established and offer suggestions on how to interact with a former spouse to maintain a relationship beneficial to raising a healthy child. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Dealing with Anger (C 1052-16)

    Anger is an emotion that everyone feels from time to time, but mismanaging this emotion can lead to hurt and difficulty in the marriage. In this Marriage Matters publication, we describe some ways that anger is not handled well, and how to better manage and express anger so that the problem can be resolved without damage to the marriage. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Empty Nest, Now What? (C 1052-02)

    When the last child leaves home, many couples experience difficulties to this new life adjustment. In this Marriage Matters publication, we offer suggestions on how to identify and describe these problems as a couple and move into the "second half" of marriage. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Enhancing Midlife Marriage (C 1052-37)

    While, at times, marital satisfaction might decrease during the middle years, there are also many benefits to this stage of marriage. In this Marriage Matters publication, we describe the highs and the lows of the middle years and what couples can do to increase satisfaction during this stage. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Getting to ‘Really’ Know You (C 1052-11)

    Dating is an important time of learning about yourself and your partner, but during the beginning stages of a dating relationship, each partner tends to put their best foot forward, which may lead to disappointment later in the relationship. In this Marriage Matters publication, we describe the beginning stages of a dating relationship, and the steps new dating couples can take to avoid future disappointment. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Goal Setting in Marriage (C 1052-17)

    Setting goals in a marriage can lead to expectations being met for both partners and for more marital satisfaction. In this Marriage Matters publication, we describe the importance of setting goals and give some suggestions on how to set, evaluate, and reach them. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Great Expectations: What Do You Want for Your Marriage? (C 1052-27)

    Each person brings certain expectations to a relationship from previous experiences and exposures. In this Marriage Matters publication, we describe expectations in the marriage and how opening describeing these expectations can lead to better marital satisfaction. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Honey, Do You Want Lilies or Daisies? Discussing End-of-life with Your Partner (C 1052-38)

    describeing end of life decisions can be uncomfortable and upsetting, but is an important topic to consider. In this Marriage Matters publication, we describe ways for a partner to bring up end of life decisions in conversation and offer guidelines for talking about and making these decisions. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: How Attached is Your Relationship? (C 1052-12)

    Positive attachment is an important part of building a healthy marriage. When knowledge, trust, reliance, commitment, and sex are at balanced levels, strong, lasting attachment can help build stronger marriages. In this Marriage Matters publication, we describe the five areas of attachment and offer suggestions on how to evaluate and improve attachment levels in these categories Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Instant Family and Love? (C 1052-32)

    Many couples in a stepmarriage bring certain expectations to the new marriage that might be unrealistic, not only for the marriage itself, but for the whole family. In this Marriage Matters publication, we describe what some of those expectations might be and offer tips on how to help the entire new family connect and love each other, which takes commitment and time. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Is Work Starving Your Marriage? (C 1052-35)

    Due to the increasing demands of the workplace, some couples experience problems due to the interference that work might have with couple or family time. The working spouse may feel the stress of a demanding job while the other spouse may feel that they are not the priority. In this Marriage Matters publication, we describe the increasing demands of a job or career and the impact it may have on the marriage, while also offering suggestions on how to balance work and family. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Knowing Your Partner (C 1052-18)

    Taking the time to really get to know your partner can help build a strong relational foundation so that when significant life changes occur, the marriage can continue to stay strong. In this Marriage Matters publication, we explain the importance of knowing your partner well and steps you can take to get to know each other better. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Let’s Talk S-E-X (C 1052-03)

    Communicating about the sexual relationship can be very difficult for some couples. In this Marriage Matters publication, we describe the importance of communication about sex, how sex is viewed differently, and offer some tips on how to communicate about the sexual relationship. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Listen to Learn (C 1052-19)

    During partner communication, listening to learn, rather than listening to reject, is an important communication skill. In this Marriage Matters publication, we explain the difference between listening to learn and listening to reject and explain how listening to learn can lead to better communication and understanding between partners. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Love for a Lifetime: Acting on Your Love for Your Spouse (C 1052-04)

    Many married couples say "I love you" to each other, but practicing love is key to a lasting marriage. In this Marriage Matters publication, we offer suggestions of how to express love and give ideas of how to put love in to practice on a daily basis. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Making Couple-time a Priority (C 1052-05)

    Because of their busy lifestyles, many couples find it difficult to make time for just each other. In this Marriage Matters publication, we describe the importance of one-on-one time and offer tips on how to make time for one another in a busy daily life. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Managing Conflict, Winning at Love (C 1052-23)

    Conflict is a natural part of any close relationship, and learning how to handle conflict well can lead to each partner feeling understood and safe to share opinions and feelings, which can lead to an increase in marital satisfaction. In this Marriage Matters publication, we describe the importance of conflict resolution skills and offer suggestions on how to communicate so that each partner feels understood and safe, so that conflicts are resolved in a healthy way. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Marriage, a Promise to Work (C 1052-13)

    Many people believe that marriage is "happily ever after" and that happiness is the goal. In the Marriage Matters publication, we describe the reality of marriage and the commitment involved. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Money Talks (C 1052-20)

    Since conversations about money are often emotionally charged, these conversations can quickly turn into disagreements. In this Marriage Matters publication, we list ways to communicate effectively about money, which may lead to better money management and harmony in the family. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Money: Yours, Mine, and Ours? (C 1052-33)

    How money is handled in a remarriage is a major decision based on past experience and financial resources available. Many remarried couples use a variation of a "Yours, Mine, and Ours" approach. In this Marriage Matters publication, we describe different options for handling money in a remarriage and offer questions to answer on how money will be handled, opening the lines for communication. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Newlywed Bliss Versus the Money Monster (C 1052-28)

    Money plays a major role in every marriage, and each partner handles money differently, which can lead to emotionally-charged disagreements. In this Marriage Matters publication, we describe the impact money decisions can have on a marriage and offer suggestions on how to communicate with your spouse about money. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: One Marriage, Two Religions (C 1052-06)

    Interfaith couples may experience hurdles when blending religious beliefs and traditions. In this Marriage Matters publication, we describe challenges that interfaith couples may face and offer suggestions of how to describe situations couples may face. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Owning the Message (C 1052-22)

    Making an effort to nourish your marital relationship can greatly strengthen your marriage. When conflicts do arise, using "I" statements can make communication more positive. In this Marriage Matters publication, we list ways to nourish the relationship, explain the use of "I" statements, and describe the positive impact compliments can have in improving the marriage. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: P.S., I Love You: Dealing with Time Apart (C 1052-07)

    When one spouse is away and time is spent apart due to job- or military-related duties, the couple may experience unique hurdles and difficulties. In this Marriage Matters publication, we describe difficulties long-distance couples may face and offer important strategies to help the couple and family during the time apart. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Preparing Your Marriage for Retirement (C 1052-39)

    Retirement is not only a transition period for the individual but also for the marriage. In this Marriage Matters publication we describe the impact that retirement might have on the marriage and how to prepare for this major life change within the marriage. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Staying Together After the Loss of a Child (C 1052-08)

    The loss of a child is an extremely difficult event for anyone to go through and often takes a toll on the marriage. Many couples do, however, maintain a healthy marriage through the difficult loss. In this Marriage Matters publication, we describe strategies couples can use to talk about the loss and where to get support during this extremely difficult time. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Stepparenting Begins with Common Ground (C 1052-34)

    Defining the role as a stepparent can be a very difficult transition, both for the stepparent and the stepchild. In this Marriage Matters publication, we offer steps to help make the transition smoother and to help a new stepparent know what to expect in his or her new role. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: Surviving the Holidays (C 1052-21)

    Expecting a magical or perfect holiday season is something that many individuals practice, possibly leading to stress and disappointment, which can put strain on the marriage. In this Marriage Matters publication, we offer suggestions on how to prepare for the holiday season by having open communication with your partner about expectations and realistic plans. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: The Honeymoon is Over, Now What? (C 1052-29)

    After the "honeymoon phase," many couples find that marriage is not exactly what they envisioned, possibly leaving them less than satisfied with their relationship. In this Marriage Matters publication, we describe the normalcy of this feeling, acknowledge that adjustment is necessary and offer strategies for building a strong marriage. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: The New Year, a Good Time for an Intimacy Checkup (C 1052-14)

    Taking an annual inventory of the emotional, social, sexual, intellectual, recreational, and spiritual intimacy that is in a marriage can reveal what is being done well and what areas might need improvement. In this Marriage Matters publication, we explain each area of intimacy in a marriage and how couples can evaluate and improve their intimacy level in these areas. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: What Did You Mean? (C 1052-24)

    Men and women communicate in different ways, which may lead to a misunderstanding. In this Marriage Matters publication, we describe the ways in which men and women generally communicate and offer suggestions on how to communicate so that misunderstanding is minimal. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: What I Said vs. What You Heard (C 1052-25)

    Many things, such as distractions, emotional states, beliefs and expectations, differences in communication styles, and self-protection can lead to a miscommunication between couples. In this Marriage Matters publication, we point out several things that might lead to a miscommunication so that couples can identify them before they become a problem. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • Marriage Matters Series: When Baby Makes Three: Making Time for Two (C 1052-01)

    The significant life-changing experience of becoming a first-time parent can be an exciting and stressful time, but can also take a toll on the marriage. In this Marriage Matters publication, we describe why becoming parents may be difficult on the marriage and offer suggestions of how to cope with the changes that come along with a family addition. Published on Aug 31, 2016.

  • The National Extension Relationship and Marriage Education Model: Core Teaching Concepts for Relationship and Marriage Enrichment Programming (HDFS-E-157)

    With both the demand and the need for broader offerings of RME, a large number of programs have been developed, presenting somewhat of a dilemma for practitioners who are interested in providing effective programming that is research-informed. Based on an extensive review of the research, this model presents key patterns of thinking and behaviors associated with healthy, stable couple relationships that can be taught in an educational setting. View the publication at http://www.nermen.org/NERMEM_Chapters.php Published on Jul 31, 2016.